I knew I'd get some commenters saying the same generic things people say. People love to spout trite soundbites and act as if they are original. It makes for a wonderful discussion when the same things are said over and over again!
But just because you say something that's nice, that doesn't make it true.
"Everyone is beautiful." No. Some people are unattractive by definition--a reference point is the only way comparatives work. It's a a nice statement, but not a true one unless you invent new meanings for all of the words. These types of statements are also easy. Saying that everyone is above average doesn't make you kind, it makes you illogical.
I'm not anti-gay, pro-hate, homophobic, or any other extreme position. Read all of my posts, consult a dictionary, think about your words and then use them. Let me go on the record and say that I am pro-human, pro-individuality, and pro- doing whatever you want as long as it doesn't hurt any one else.
Stop trying to reduce everything into binary terms. The "options" are not love or hate, proud or ashamed, and masculine or feminine. It is your prerogative to live in either the black or white space, but many of us prefer the grey area.
It's very hard to live a hypocrisy-free life, but at least try. Don't tell me that all opinions are valued and equal and then in the next sentence tell me that mine is invalid and inferior to yours. Calling someone narrow-minded while espousing over-simplified platitudes is...funny.
Try to be reasonable and rational. If a person is visibly homosexual and is "unable to hide their sexuality," don't tell me they made a "brave decision". If they had no choice and made no decision, then we're just left to assume they are brave for existing? I think respect trumps pity, every time. If you respect someone there is no problem joking around with them, and I honestly respect most people.
Stop twisting my words. In the above I didn't say or imply that flamboyant homosexuals don't have a much harder life. I merely pointed out that simply existing is not sufficient to earn the patch of bravery. I say "fashion is dumb" or "this isn't my personal style" and you say "stop judging and forcing your beliefs on others". What?
We are all living in the year 2013, so let's try to focus on that. I have read about the history of homosexuals dating back to before ancient Greece, so yes, I am familiar with the AIDs epidemic.
Learn to understand and take jokes. This is the internet and you are reading a blog. These are signs that you should be aware that things may not be what they seem. Many people in society operate under this hierarchical system that dictates that if you occupy a "higher" social standing than someone else you are forbidden from saying anything negative about them. This is more or less the idea behind political correctness. A poor, minority gay woman, for example, would be allowed to say essentially whatever she wants about almost anyone. She could call the president of the United States the n-word and that would be OK. She could say poor black men behave like monkeys. However, if she were to poke fun at a transexual, she would be scorned because that person is perceived as being of lower status. Rich, white heteros are not allowed to criticize anyone for the same reasons.
I think political correctness has helped mold this country into an increasingly respectful nation. In my experience, most of Europe is still much more racist than is the United States, and I think this is partly because we enforce political correctness to a greater degree. But at the end of the day, life is absurd and we are adults here having a light-hearted discussion, so save the finger wagging.
Lastly, some seem to conceive homosexuality as a way of life that comes with "privileges" and "disadvantages". For me, it's just an orientation—not a cultural identity. We aren't obligated by anyone, hetero, homo or otherwise, to believe anything, behave in any particular way, or engage in prescribed activities.
I am trying to create a place for people like me. There are already gay bars, and LGBTQ groups that work for some. If they work for you, great. We are just trying to get out a little pent up frustration and have a few laughs about what it's like to be a non-heterosexual that genuinely feels more at home in a stereotypically heterosexual environment than a homosexual one. Why is this so horrible or unbelievable?
In the end, we don't want our own club. We want everyone in the same club. We don't want gay bars or straight bars; we want bars where any two people could hook up and no one would notice. We aren't satisfied with tolerance, we want equality. You may think that society and politics is one big sham, but we'd like to have a non hetero president, preferably in this century. This may seem to lofty to you, but our generation is already moving in this direction, so let us do our thing. We are trying to make things better, I promise.
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