95% of the message I received were regarding a hook-up and there seem to be a few basic categories of people who use the app.
1.) Older dudes
Some of these older dudes are pretty explicit, aggressive and persistent (notice the timestamps):
To be fair, the type of messages above also came (lol?) from younger people as well.
2.) ~7% body fat bros with a busted face and/or severe psychological disorders
These guys attract your attention with their 8-pack abs and skin so tight you can see their internal organs. They'll send you 15 high resolution images of all their body parts, then reluctantly send you a picture of their face, which is usually about a 5/10, or worse. If they are actually good looking, don't worry, chat with them for 5 minutes and you'll notice they are completely insane.
3.) Feminine guys who use phrases like "boy pussy"
I mostly successfully ignored this stuff, but it's sometimes straight up nauseating. To each their own, but I'd rather have sex with a woman.
4.) Nice guys who are just on grindr to "make friends"
Yikes. I feel for these bros, but yikes.
5.) Relatively normal guys that aren't particularly attractive or distinctive
My standards are probably high, but still.
6.) Guys with no pictures who just incessantly say "hi"
I understand being weary of putting your image out there (see: anonymous blog), but realistically some pictures will have to be exchanged at some point.
* * *Despite being a "cutting-edge" app with geolocation and whatnot, grindr feels a bit antiquated in that people still use generic stereotypes to describe themselves and others. "twink 4 jock"? Cringe, dude. These terms are supposed to serve as shortcuts for finding the right type of person, but people lie and pretend so these classifications are ultimately mostly useless.
Here are the basic translations:
Jock: not that fat, maybe goes to the gym, but almost certainly does not play any sports
Twink: thin (boney), small (weak), young-looking
Bear: hairy, fat
Dad: old, also probably fat, maybe trying to offer you money
Masc: not flaming, but may still be feminine
Str8/curious: actually masculine, into physical stuff with dudes; probably denies any emotional feelings
Bi: pretty similar to above, but admits attraction to guys
I'm totally chill with the existence of a hook-up app though, and I think that the reason that most poeple, namely heteros, hate on grindr is because they are jealous. Hetero bros fucking dream about an app where a series of disposable girls beg to blow them. And I don't think there's anything 'wrong' with one night stands. And yet the whole system just feels kind of slimy to me personally. I also don't have the energy to file through hundreds of bros and play all these little games.
I think many of us are ready to move past this whole cloak-and-dagger culture associated with being non hetero. I guess that's why I think something like tinder works better for me. Some people call it a hook-up app like grindr, but because tinder is linked to your Facebook, it's much more vanilla. I think it's nice to see that a bro has a head on his shoulders and is able to control himself, then later it is important that he can also let loose and be a human being. As I've said, I think you can be a unique person and be genuine to your thoughts without painting them on your naked body. But maybe that is the only way.
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Just my experiences. What have your experiences been like?