Is Aldo a fuckbuddy or boyfriend at the moment?
I'd say I'm seeing him, but that he knows we're not exclusive.
seems like youre always knockin the apps/sites for meeting dudes, and while i agree theyre not ideal, it also seems like alot of your stories are fruit of one of them. am i missing something? how do you meet normal dudes? i've only met one dude out of maybe twenty that i would actually want to hang out with. having high standards blows.
Tinder is the only decent one in my experience. And RE: high standards, yeah.
Do you have an idea where you will like to be in 10 years? Or are you just going with the flow; with no particular set end goal in life?
I have an idea, but that's damn far in the future. Right now I'm setting off down one path, but am going to explore some things on the side. I like to leave as many doors open as possible.
I know you stated that you hated the whole planner/spontaneous lifestyle dichotomy, but are there things that you would love to have at your side when you are older e.g., a partner, pets, house, kids, etc?
Y'all love to imagine me as a decrepit old dude, huh? Gosh, I don't know. I hope I'd be with a "partner". It always seems depressing to think about old gay dudes all by themselves with no kids, but at the same time I can totally see how the years just go by and suddenly you're 40. With kids I go back and forth. I like kids, but currently can't imagine myself as a father yet. I don't think I would ever have/adopt a kid on my own, so one step at a time though.
How would you react if some hot guy came up to you and said "Ive got a lovely bunch of coconuts"?
Regardless of the cultural connotations, do you believe in monogamy?
I think monogamy is a reasonable conception. Life long monogamy seems pretty fucking tough, but that doesn't mean it's impossible or something not to be sought after. I also don't have a problem with alternative sorts of relationships—just have to figure out what works best for you. I think ideally I'd be in a serious, longterm monogamous relationship, but it might be chill to have a clause that allows to request a random hookup if the other person is okay with it. That might be to dangerous and I don't know as I haven't been there yet, but that's my conceptualization.
Who was the first guy you remember having a crush on?
It was definitely not something I was consciously aware of until about middle school so it's hard to pin point who was first. In retrospect, I definitely had crushes on the other little boys in kids movies and cartoons. My brother's friends were also prime targets. Who was yours?
Pretty similar. In retrospect, I realize that the other boys at my school I "wanted to look like and be friends with" were just crushes. Older brother's friends were nice to look at as well. The first movie/tv guy I remember crushing on was Casper Van Dien from Starship Troopers. Entertaining movie, terrible acting, but dat shower scene
Duh, Rico was sexy as fuck.
If you don't mind may I ask how is your education going?Are you graduating this year?
I'm possibly going back to graduate school in September, but I hope to also work on some side projects and eventually bail on grad school. Either way I'll be pretty happy with the result—I think.
Has you noticed a change in your relationship with your friends after you came out them?
A bit, and the kind of change depends on the friend. With one close friend we basically never talk about it, which honestly kind of blows. Not sure if it's because he doesn't want to talk about it or thinks that I don't want to talk about it, but either way it's almost as if I never told him. With my roommate it's mostly good because I do tell him stuff about guys I'm seeing and what's cool/sucks etc. He is still a little awkward, e.g. he'll say something like "Well when there's a girl—er or a guy—girl or guy, either way," like he needs to interrupt his natural flow of conversations sometimes to make sure he's not offending me. This is ironic because it actually pisses me off more when he makes a big deal about it. Still, overall with the roommate it's nice because I'm probably more open with him than with anyone else, and he's the same way with me and people he's seeing/general life shit. Then the other best friend it's basically just been awesome. He's super chill about it and is basically exactly the same towards me but now incorporates this new knowledge and we have another thing to laugh about.
So what was up with that "tale for another time" threesome possibility?
Hah he messaged me again the other day saying that he'd almost convinced his girl friend to do it. He's kind of erratic in his communication and I don't know how seriously I'd actually consider it anyways. That said, we shall see ha.
No dude, I meant the hypothetical previous experience you might've had? You dodged that question the other time i inquired
Ah, well I've been in a situation a number of times where there were three parties involved and it was sexual, but never was there sexing among all three, so I don't count these instances as true threesomes.
are you attracted to any of your friends? and would you do it with any of them?
I tend to be attracted to guys when I first meet them but if we become really close usually the sexual attraction fades. If they are more like acquaintances then the crush usually persists. I've done some stuff with close hetero friends and mostly find it weird. Like most, I find the the idea of hooking up with a "straight" guy hot as fuck, but for some reason it weirds me out with my close friends, usually. Kind of like fooling around with your brother, though not quite. But yes, there are some friends I would go to bangtown with, just not my tight (LOL!) ones (I like 'em loose, lolz). I probably won't go into it on this blog as my friends are the ones who could recognize this blog immediately, and I don't want to air out their homoerotic laundry. I'll just say that hetero guys seem to like me, and I ain't complain'
How were you able to stay so optimistic about your situation before coming out? I'm not out yet (pretty much same situation as you before) and some days I feel hopeless. I'm always afraid that I'm going to be forever alone. I always keep myself busy with work and friends to take my mind off of it but every now and then it gets to me.
Oh yea and thanks for keeping up with this blog dude. You don't know how much it has helped me. I relate to you a lot. It's almost like we share the same life. I'm just not able to express myself as well as you, you sometimes take the words right out of my mouth.
I think life takes a fair amount of self psychotherapy no matter what, and being not hetero is just another layer. I guess I try to focus on all the good/cool things about my situation. You gotta ride the line between rationalization and delusion hard my friend hah. Staying busy is a two-edged sword though. I did the same in college but in the end keeping too busy makes it basically impossible to find anyone. I'm glad da blog has been helpful for ya dood. Keep on fighting the good fight.
How many tinder matches do you have?
can you should post more pictures of yourself or just your body ;)